Is It Just Me? - No. It isn't.
You’re having a hard time. You feel like a storm is forming inside you. There’s pain, it’s hard to breath. And you start thinking… Am I alone in this? Is it just me? No, it isn’t.
We keep thinking that our pain is unique. And in a certain way, it is. No one can feel things the way you do. But that doesn’t mean this situation is happening only to you. There are over 7 billion people in the world. And my guess is that at least 85% of the population is struggling with something as you read this.
So no. You’re not alone. Not at all.
I thought I was… and I kept eating my emotions and feeding this mindset that literally made me sick. Mentally sick.
Technology has allowed us to communicate with people all around the world. The number of virtual communities related to very specific topics has grown, and we have more access to information than ever before ~ including “the struggle is real” gifs and memes to make us LMAO a little bit. In tough times, a good laugh can save the day.
But anyway… What I want to say is:
You don’t need to go through this tough time alone ~ because you aren’t alone! Use technology in your favor! Search about your issue, look for virtual (and in person) communities, find other people who are going through the same struggles as you. People who will, hopefully, truly understand and support you, and together, help each other heal. Even if it’s someone who have never felt the same kind of pain you’re feeling, but who has the gift of empathy (that although everyone talks about, few actually have), so you can vent. Sometimes just letting things out of your chest can make a huge difference.
The people you share your stories, pain and frustrations, even your wins with, will bring an impact to you and your mindset. So be careful. Not everyone will understand what’s going on. I don’t share “my stuff” with people (friends) I have a feeling will be judging me and my choices, or that will eventually, use the information they got as “currency” to start conversations. I hate that.
Let me tell you just one more thing.
After making the decision of speaking up, not just eating my feelings and emotions, I started to really get and feel better. Not only that. Realizing that I’m not the only one in the same situation, seeing examples of other people that overcame their own storms and obstacles, and most important, feeling understood, has become part of my dealing and healing process.
I don’t know what your situation is right now. It can be a storm, it can be just a few clouds, it doesn’t matter. Struggles are struggles. And they shall pass. But for that to happen, we need to find a safe space to share our thoughts, fears, frustrations. And seeing that we’re not alone in this is powerful, and it can change everything.
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